作者: system

Written by: Director of Curriculum and Training, Financial Education Association       Mr. Kwan Hin Bun

In many cases, the biggest blow to a child is not the failure itself, but his or her understanding of the failure. For example, if a child is not selected to represent the school in an inter-school competition, the usual reason they think of is that they are not as good as their classmates. But there may be other reasons behind it. Maybe the teacher is worried that if he gets hurt, he won’t be able to represent the school in other more important competitions. This is not to teach children to avoid responsibility, but sometimes we need to make them understand that it is indeed their own factors that lead to failure.

Parents need to remind their children that anyone who starts something will always have difficulty. Parents should encourage their children to persevere to the end, without taking the requirement of perfection too seriously. Don’t be impatient to provide help to your child; let them try to meet the challenge in a different way. For example, if your child has difficulty learning to write Chinese characters, let him or her copy them first.

As children, their attitudes toward people and things around them are often unstable and easily influenced by emotions and other factors. When faced with difficulties and failures, they tend to develop negative emotions and fail to deal with failures with the right attitude, thus creating resilience. At this time, parents should tell their children in time, failure is not terrible, as long as a little brave can do a good job, learn from the failure to see how to do next time. Parents should consciously use their children’s failures as educational opportunities to guide their children to regain their courage and try again with boldness and confidence. At the same time, educate your child to face difficulties and setbacks, to improve the ability to overcome difficulties and resilience.

撰文：財商教育協會課程及培訓總監　關顯彬先生

很多情況下，給孩子帶來最大的打擊往往不是失敗本身，而是他對挫敗的理解。例如孩子沒被選上代表學校參加校際比賽，他們一般想到的原因可能是能力不及同學。但其實背後或許還有其他原因，可能老師擔心他弄傷了，就不能代表學校參加其他更重要的比賽。這樣做不是教孩子逃避責任，而是有時候我們需要讓孩子明白，導致失敗的確實是他們自身的因素。

作為孩子，對周圍的人和事物的態度常常是不穩定的，易受情緒等因素的影響，在面對困難和失敗時，他們往往會產生消極情緒，不能以正確的態度對待失敗，從而產生抗逆力。這時，父母要及時告訴孩子，失敗並不可怕，只要勇敢一點就能做好的，從失敗中吸取教訓，看一看下次怎樣做。父母要有意識地將孩子的失敗作為教育的契機，引導孩子重新鼓起勇氣，大膽自信地再次嘗試。同時，教育孩子敢於面對困難和挫折，提高克服困難和抗逆力。